Monday, 30 April 2018

I want to see colours!

More and more, when talking about racism and gender issues, I hear people say, "Oh I like everyone - I don't see gender or colour."


Why the hell NOT? Are you f-ing loopy? Or are you just trying to be nice and non-political, perhaps - politically correct? I'm sorry - I'm not trusting of this kind of statement anymore... been hearing it too long without the actions that follow to tell me you really mean that gender, colour, etc., really aren't things seen, taken into consideration...

I just can't take stock in notions that people can pretend skin pigmentation, remarkable eye shapes and cheekbones and such things don't exist and don't matter.

In saying you see no differences or that differences don't matter, are you trying to see an amalgamation of everyone into some kind of mixed grey and total androgyny?

Or... are you just kidding yourself?

I think the ideas about not seeing a person's colour and instead seeing them as human beings - likewise for gender - um, sorry - screw that - it's dream thinking. Can't we see people as human beings without being this strange kind of colourblind??? (Race-blind and gender-blind, too?). I don't think pretending not to see race, gender, colour, etc., is a progressive idea anymore... it's making us backtrack and not work at our curiosity about, acceptance and respect for others. If we can pretend not to see these things, aren't we ignoring a person's features? If we say these things don't matter, overall, aren't we somehow, at least in small part, saying parts of people don't matter? (Very tricky... very covert, colonialists!)

Labels? Bring them the pluck back! (I want to be able to describe how awesome you are... and for that, I need some of the words BACK that have been taken away by political correctness).

I WANT to see your colours, your gender or non-gender being. Your gender fluid or non-binary you. Your butch or femme or dyke or grrl or boi, cis-normative-whatever. I want to know that androgynous looks like "this" or "that" for you... and that it differs from masculine or feminine or femme or other things.

Then, what I'm going to do is... accept you.

...In your masculine look with your white skin or your reddish brown skin or you, too - with your almond shaped eyes and your black as night hair.  Or hey YOU - with your porcelain skin and freckles, your female curves with buzzed orange-red hair. And also YOU - with your long, braided hair and boy lines with your awesome Iron Maiden t-shirt, volleyball shoes - painted nails to match your shoes! I mean - how cool can this get???

(come out Dirtbags! Let's go see Iron Maiden!)
(Mary Lambert covers Wheatus' "Teenage Dirtbag")

Tell me your pronoun - that's good with me - I'll use it - but please be visible and don't pretend there are not labels and infinite ways to describe you. I don't want to like everyone for or under the same "no colour, no gender" rule. I hate that rule and think it's unreasonable and stupid.

I think the rule is a way for priviledged people to say they don't see marginalized persons and labels or that they don't make a difference when, in fact, people are discriminated against ALL THE TIME based on looks, gender assumptions, skin colour, etc... THAT is what needs to stop - not peoples' ways of describing themselves.

Having a rule to not see difference and uniqueness is a shitty way to deal with acceptance.

Why can't we accept all colours, shapes, and such? THAT makes sense to me.

I swear you are NOT going to be invisible to me - because I swear I will see your skin colour, clothing preferences, use the pronoun you tell me to use, etc.

Your colour means something to me.

(Wheatus - Teenage Dirtbag)


You are an awesome colour, shape and design. I see you!

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